Riding crop costumes go bye bye

Prudence · 12-01-2005, 03:33 PM

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Originally Posted by SzczerbiakManiac

Prudence, while it's impossible to get an accurate reading on one's true feelings via text, I get the impression the nature of this discussion is quite emotional for you and it may be coloring your judgement of the situation. If you'll forgive the unsolicited advice, you might want to take a few steps back, wait a while, and come back when you've had some time to ruminate on the topic. We're you're friends here and I'm positive nobody is attacking you.

And why the hell wouldn't I be emotional? A bunch of people I thought I might be friends with some day are outright advocating employment decisions based on weight -- not because of the objective requirements of the position, but because they'd rather look at skinny people.

Theme park employees should be hotties, because that's what you're paying to go see. Wait staff should be hotties, because that's why you eat out. Receptionists should be hotties because they're the face of the company. And so it goes. If you indulge in that thinking, then regardless of the field or position there is ALWAYS a reason to hire the hottie and not, well, me. If I had a dollar for everytime a prospective employer told me that I just "didn't project the right image...." -- because goodness knows one wants the backroom file clerk to project the right image. But hey, given the choice between the skinny applicant and the fat applicant, why not hire the skinny one? After all, they'll be better to look at day after day.

Obviously it's "the way things are." I experience it every day. However, that doesn't meant that I have to passively accept it, let alone personally perpetuate it.

But I still have to wonder -- if y'all feel that strongly about looking at hot bodies when you're out and about, why would you voluntarily associate with those you know don't make the grade? The message here has been pretty clear -- given the choice, people would rather look at skinny people. There is nothing so fabulous about my personality that would make up for my appearance. I'm not able to shower my friends with riches. Just a big lump of fat with a person somewhere deep down inside.

SzczerbiakManiac · 12-01-2005, 04:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Prudence

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Originally Posted by SzczerbiakManiac

Prudence, while it's impossible to get an accurate reading on one's true feelings via text, I get the impression the nature of this discussion is quite emotional for you and it may be coloring your judgement of the situation.

And why the hell wouldn't I be emotional?

I didn't say you shouldn't be emotional. I suggested your emotions may be coloring your judgement. Here's one example of why I think that:

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Originally Posted by Prudence

Wait staff should be hotties, because that's why you eat out.

None has actually said that. Here's what was said: (I added the emphasis)

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Originally Posted by innerSpaceman

When I go to a restaurant, I'm looking for a good meal and not hotties to ogle.

Do you see what I mean? iSm said one thing and you extrapolated that to be something else. Your emotions, valid as they maybe, appear to be making you see something that's not there.

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Originally Posted by Prudence

If you indulge in that thinking, then regardless of the field or position there is ALWAYS a reason to hire the hottie and not, well, me. <snip> Obviously it's "the way things are." I experience it every day. However, that doesn't meant that I have to passively accept it, let alone personally perpetuate it.

I'm going to put this in spoiler text because I know a lot of people are going to HATE to see it. Do not open the box if you are easily offended. (I am not kidding, open at your own risk.!)

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Originally Posted by Prudence

But I still have to wonder -- if y'all feel that strongly about looking at hot bodies when you're out and about, why would you voluntarily associate with those you know don't make the grade?

Because we like you, silly—and don't forget it! Life and friendships aren't just about getting aroused from looking at a hottie. Believe it or not, the vacuous masses here on the LoT can see past physical appearances. And speaking as a fat, bald, and (physically) ugly person, I'm glad they do. I don't give a flying fück if someone at a Park meet is eye-candy. I care that they are fun to hang out with. You, my dear, fit the bill quite nicely.

[hugs]

tracilicious · 12-01-2005, 04:45 PM

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Originally Posted by SzczerbiakManiac

Because we like you, silly—and don't forget it! Life and friendships aren't just about getting aroused from looking at a hottie. Believe it or not, the vacuous masses here on the LoT can see past physical appearances. And speaking as a fat, bald, and (physically) ugly person, I'm glad they do. I don't give a flying fück if someone at a Park meet is eye-candy. I care that they are fun to hang out with. You, my dear, fit the bill quite nicely.

[hugs]

I agree, but I also don't think you are unattractive in any way. I've only seen your avatar, but you have a great smile, fun hair, and a great sense of humor. I can't see the picture very closely, but you look pretty to me. I don't think people are saying, "You're ugly, but we like you anyways." I think it's more like, "We don't care one way or the other. We like you."

innerSpaceman · 12-01-2005, 05:03 PM

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Originally Posted by tracilicious

I agree, but I also don't think you are unattractive in any way. I've only seen your avatar, but you have a great smile ...

Nice ball, Mr. Maniac.

tracilicious · 12-01-2005, 05:08 PM

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Originally Posted by innerSpaceman

Nice ball, Mr. Maniac.

Uh...I probably should have clarified this, but my comment was directed at Prudence and her avi. I've never actually seen Sczerbiwhatever, but I'm sure he's lovely as well.

lashbear · 12-02-2005, 07:43 PM

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Originally Posted by SzczerbiakManiac

I'm going to put this in spoiler text because I know a lot of people are going to HATE to see it. Do not open the box if you are easily offended. (I am not kidding, open at your own risk.!)

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The third choice of SM's is Jolly Good Advice. The reason I say this I have decided not to post in THIS thread, as I had intended, because it seems a little off-topic, however PLEASE, PLEASE go and read this thread for futher information:
http://www.loungeoftomorrow.com/LoT/showthre...9380#post49380

Love you all.
Rob.