Riding crop costumes go bye bye

[SzczerbiakManiac]

Originally Posted by Prudence

And why the hell wouldn't I be emotional?

I didn't say you shouldn't be emotional. I suggested your emotions may be coloring your judgement. Here's one example of why I think that:

Originally Posted by Prudence

Wait staff should be hotties, because that's why you eat out.

None has actually said that. Here's what was said: (I added the emphasis)

Originally Posted by innerSpaceman

When I go to a restaurant, I'm looking for a good meal and not hotties to ogle.

Do you see what I mean? iSm said one thing and you extrapolated that to be something else. Your emotions, valid as they maybe, appear to be making you see something that's not there.

Originally Posted by Prudence

If you indulge in that thinking, then regardless of the field or position there is ALWAYS a reason to hire the hottie and not, well, me. <snip> Obviously it's "the way things are." I experience it every day. However, that doesn't meant that I have to passively accept it, let alone personally perpetuate it.

I'm going to put this in spoiler text because I know a lot of people are going to HATE to see it. Do not open the box if you are easily offended. (I am not kidding, open at your own risk.!)

Spoiler:

You can also choose not to passively accept that the world is round, but that doesn't change reality. So we as fat folks have a some choices:

• Bitch, moan, and get our feelings hurt
• Change society's perceptions of fat people
• Lose weight

One of those choices is easy, but won't make us feel any better in the long run. The other two are tough, but if accomplished, will make us feel better. But no matter what, it's our choice!

Originally Posted by Prudence

But I still have to wonder -- if y'all feel that strongly about looking at hot bodies when you're out and about, why would you voluntarily associate with those you know don't make the grade?

Because we like you, silly—and don't forget it! Life and friendships aren't just about getting aroused from looking at a hottie. Believe it or not, the vacuous masses here on the LoT can see past physical appearances. And speaking as a fat, bald, and (physically) ugly person, I'm glad they do. I don't give a flying fück if someone at a Park meet is eye-candy. I care that they are fun to hang out with. You, my dear, fit the bill quite nicely.

[hugs]

[tracilicious]

Originally Posted by SzczerbiakManiac

Because we like you, silly—and don't forget it! Life and friendships aren't just about getting aroused from looking at a hottie. Believe it or not, the vacuous masses here on the LoT can see past physical appearances. And speaking as a fat, bald, and (physically) ugly person, I'm glad they do. I don't give a flying fück if someone at a Park meet is eye-candy. I care that they are fun to hang out with. You, my dear, fit the bill quite nicely.

[hugs]

I agree, but I also don't think you are unattractive in any way. I've only seen your avatar, but you have a great smile, fun hair, and a great sense of humor. I can't see the picture very closely, but you look pretty to me. I don't think people are saying, "You're ugly, but we like you anyways." I think it's more like, "We don't care one way or the other. We like you."

[innerSpaceman]

Originally Posted by tracilicious

I agree, but I also don't think you are unattractive in any way. I've only seen your avatar, but you have a great smile ...

Nice ball, Mr. Maniac.

[tracilicious]

Originally Posted by innerSpaceman

Nice ball, Mr. Maniac.

Uh...I probably should have clarified this, but my comment was directed at Prudence and her avi. I've never actually seen Sczerbiwhatever, but I'm sure he's lovely as well.

[lashbear]

Originally Posted by SzczerbiakManiac

I'm going to put this in spoiler text because I know a lot of people are going to HATE to see it. Do not open the box if you are easily offended. (I am not kidding, open at your own risk.!)

Spoiler:

You can also choose not to passively accept that the world is round, but that doesn't change reality. So we as fat folks have a some choices:

• Bitch, moan, and get our feelings hurt
• Change society's perceptions of fat people
• Lose weight

One of those choices is easy, but won't make us feel any better in the long run. The other two are tough, but if accomplished, will make us feel better. But no matter what, it's our choice!

The third choice of SM's is Jolly Good Advice. The reason I say this I have decided not to post in THIS thread, as I had intended, because it seems a little off-topic, however PLEASE, PLEASE go and read this thread for futher information:
http://www.loungeoftomorrow.com/LoT/showthre...9380#post49380

Love you all.
Rob.