Isn't 8 a Little Young

SacTown Chronic · 02-10-2006, 03:19 PM

Here's a cautionary tale of how not to react:

My sister walks into her teenage son's room and catches him in the middle of winding his sun dial, dig? Yeah, she walks into a teenager's room without knocking. I'm thinking you get what you deserve if you open a teenage boy's closed door without knocking and see him stroking away. But my sister isn't of the same mind regarding privacy, I guess.

She proceeds to just humiliate the poor boy by calling him "dirty" and "sinful" and a bunch of other fvcked up words guaranteed to bring him shame whenever he thinks of it for, say, the next 60 years or so. I guess she figured the sheer embarrassment of being caught by your mom wasn't punishment enough.

Man, this happened almost ten years ago and I'm still pissed at her. Makes me wonder how often my nephew thinks of it and what goes through his mind when he does. Poor bastard.

blueerica · 02-10-2006, 04:10 PM

STC makes the most important point. Don't inadvertently cause him to be ashamed of the act. The repercussions of that could last a long long time. I remember things that were said to me (in a more hurtful vein), by my stepfather, and I think I carried them with my self image for far too long, in such tiny subtle ways bearing some sort of imaginary shame... Wow.

Choose (your words) wisely. I'm sure it'll all be just fine.

02-10-2006, 03:19 PM	#1
SacTown Chronic the myth of the dream Join Date: Jan 2005 Posts: 2,217	Here's a cautionary tale of how not to react: My sister walks into her teenage son's room and catches him in the middle of winding his sun dial, dig? Yeah, she walks into a teenager's room without knocking. I'm thinking you get what you deserve if you open a teenage boy's closed door without knocking and see him stroking away. But my sister isn't of the same mind regarding privacy, I guess. She proceeds to just humiliate the poor boy by calling him "dirty" and "sinful" and a bunch of other fvcked up words guaranteed to bring him shame whenever he thinks of it for, say, the next 60 years or so. I guess she figured the sheer embarrassment of being caught by your mom wasn't punishment enough. Man, this happened almost ten years ago and I'm still pissed at her. Makes me wonder how often my nephew thinks of it and what goes through his mind when he does. Poor bastard. __________________ Is it the fingers, or the brain that you're teaching a lesson?
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02-10-2006, 04:10 PM	#2
blueerica Nueve Join Date: Jan 2005 Posts: 6,497	STC makes the most important point. Don't inadvertently cause him to be ashamed of the act. The repercussions of that could last a long long time. I remember things that were said to me (in a more hurtful vein), by my stepfather, and I think I carried them with my self image for far too long, in such tiny subtle ways bearing some sort of imaginary shame... Wow. Choose (your words) wisely. I'm sure it'll all be just fine. __________________ Tomorrow is the day for you and me
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