Sick Friend, Need Ideas...

Not Afraid · 06-12-2006, 07:52 PM

How strange. My Mac is still foreign ground.

Kevy Baby · 06-12-2006, 08:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Not Afraid

How strange. My Mac is still foreign ground.

Unfortunately, vBulletin isn't as clean as on the Mac as it is on a PC. Ironically, no WYSIWYG.
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MOONLINER: sorry for hijacking the thread.

I've occassionaly thought about losing one of my senses or use of limb(s). Losing my sight scares the crap out of me.

I think there have been some excellent suggestions made here. I have found that when dealing with something this serious, the best thing is just to behave normally around the person (or at least as normally as possible). Don't dwell on the obvious (unless the person feels like talking), just do as much as you normally did before.

Many years ago (pre GusGus), I had a girlfriend who was diagnosed and operated on for a brain tumour. She (obviously) was in the hospital quite a bit. While it was traumatic for me, I never showed it when I was with her. I just acted like nothing was different and just carried on like nothing was happening - we just happened to be hanging out in a different place. Many years later, when I got a chance to talk with her again, she said that the way I treated her was what got her through the ordeal*. People (her mother especially) coming in and babying her and being overly sympathetic just reminded her of her condition. Being as normal as possible helps the person realize that while there will be changes, that their life WILL go on.

*I bring this up for illustrative purposes only - I don't need or want kudos for what I did.

Ponine · 06-13-2006, 08:29 AM

I totally agree with Kevy.
Sometimes all anyone wants to do is suddenly treat the ill person as a child all over again, not the loving, adult, respected person they have grown to be.
Suddenly, not only did they lose the ability to X, they are no longer even an adult able to think and make decisions.

I worked for a woman who was blind for a while.. she loved taking walks, loved dogs.. any dog. And she adored music and tv.

My vote? Walks, outdoors, music, and podcasts. Familiar movies would work for me, but you would have to find out what your friend thinks. I can see that being upsetting as well.

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Ponine Virgin Ears Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: San Diego Posts: 2,075	I totally agree with Kevy. Sometimes all anyone wants to do is suddenly treat the ill person as a child all over again, not the loving, adult, respected person they have grown to be. Suddenly, not only did they lose the ability to X, they are no longer even an adult able to think and make decisions. I worked for a woman who was blind for a while.. she loved taking walks, loved dogs.. any dog. And she adored music and tv. My vote? Walks, outdoors, music, and podcasts. Familiar movies would work for me, but you would have to find out what your friend thinks. I can see that being upsetting as well. __________________ There's something strange, There's something wrong. I see a change - It's like when love dies.
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