Tell us about your idiot relatives

[cstephens]

Originally Posted by Not Afraid

Funny side story - I was on the phone to my SIL and my evil sister was trying to get through to my brother (they did not have call waiting). She called me and actually ORDERED me to get off the phone so she could call my brother. Uh, I don't think so. CONTROLFREAKBITCH!

Totally none of my business so feel free to not answer, but I figured I'd ask anyway - how much contact do you have with evil sister? After everything that happened, I think I'd have a hard time having anything to do with her.

I have four siblings, all older. Most of my friends know about two of them (brother and sister). Some of them know I have a second sister that I don't have much contact with (couldn't be bothered to come to my wedding even though she only lived 15 minutes away from the wedding site and had been angry previously that I had the money and ability to go on vacation once a year and she didn't, never mind that I was single and had a decent job and she was married with three kids). Most don't even know I have another brother because I almost never talk about him. After multiple things happening in the past, I pretty much cut him off. I only sent a wedding invitation at the insistence of my mother, and I knew he wasn't going to come anyway. Couple years ago, he pulled something else and ended up freaking out my mom, which really pissed me off partly because I had to talk her down, and I ended up having to do something nice for him not because I wanted to but basically to calm down my mother.

[Not Afraid]

Originally Posted by cstephens

Totally none of my business so feel free to not answer, but I figured I'd ask anyway - how much contact do you have with evil sister? After everything that happened, I think I'd have a hard time having anything to do with her.

I have absolutely no contact with her, nor does my Brother and other Sister. She basically lost her entire family with this little stunt. I hope it was worth it to her, but I don't need this kind of BS in my life for any reason - even if they are family.

This also shows why I have very littel tolerance for BS among other people in my life. I've had more than my share and don't care to experience more.

[cstephens]

Originally Posted by Not Afraid

I have absolutely no contact with her, nor does my Brother and other Sister. She basically lost her entire family with this little stunt. I hope it was worth it to her, but I don't need this kind of BS in my life for any reason - even if they are family.

Yeah, that makes sense. I was wondering because you had mentioned that she called you. She must still have your contact info from before. I was just amazed that you could be civil to her after all that she'd pulled.

I know some people will say that family is family no matter what, but I'm not sure how I see that someone being related to me means they can torture me in ways that I don't allow total strangers to.

[BarTopDancer]

Originally Posted by cstephens

I know some people will say that family is family no matter what, but I'm not sure how I see that someone being related to me means they can torture me in ways that I don't allow total strangers to.

Words to live by.

[Not Afraid]

Originally Posted by cstephens

I know some people will say that family is family no matter what, but I'm not sure how I see that someone being related to me means they can torture me in ways that I don't allow total strangers to.

I have an Aunt that is always trying to tell me that blood is thicker than water, she's your sister, blah blah blah. I simply say that my own well-being is worth more to me than having a relationship with an abusive and damaging person, no matter what the relationship is.

[Gemini Cricket]

Originally Posted by Not Afraid

...my own well-being is worth more to me than having a relationship with an abusive and damaging person, no matter what the relationship is.

Hear hear. Or here here. (However it's spelled.)

The best part about my family is that they're mostly in Hawai'i. And Boston is about as far away as you can get from Hawai'i and still be in the US.

[sleepyjeff]

Originally Posted by Gemini Cricket

Hear hear. Or here here. (However it's spelled.)

Your original insticnts are correct. It is "hear, hear".

Odly enough, when saying the phrase "now see here", the spelling is different.

[cstephens]

Originally Posted by Not Afraid

I have an Aunt that is always trying to tell me that blood is thicker than water, she's your sister, blah blah blah.

The other thing I figure is - if I'm going to get the whole "they're family" speech, then why don't they treat me like I'm an important part of the family? Why is "we're family" only a one-way street?

I've gotten that speech from my mother about my oldest brother as well, and I pretty much just ignored it - she doesn't do that any more. My mother doesn't know about some of the stuff my brother pulled when I was younger, and I've seen my parents let him walk all over them, though I think he stopped doing that a while ago. If they want to do that, that's their right, and I also think it's partly a cultural thing on their part, but I don't care that much that he has supposedly changed - there are things that he has never and never will apologize to me for - so I see no reason for there to be a relationship with him. Part of the problem we had was that at some point, I decided I was tired of him telling me what to do, and I spoke up, and he really couldn't deal with that. Imagine that - me speaking up!

[BarTopDancer]

Originally Posted by Not Afraid

I have an Aunt that is always trying to tell me that blood is thicker than water, she's your sister, blah blah blah. I simply say that my own well-being is worth more to me than having a relationship with an abusive and damaging person, no matter what the relationship is.

My mom says the same thing about my uncle (he is her brother). It's not even a matter of being civil for the sake of seeing my cousins. They live in Canada (and they are adults who know they have an open invite to come stay with me any time they want).

I finally said if I was dating a guy who was treating me like he does you'd do everything in your power to get me away from him. Why do you feel this need to make me associate with him because he is blood? If you want to then fine, but don't get mad at me because I don't want to associate with a controlling manipulative man-child. And don't get mad when I get upset that you allow him to treat me how he does. Stand up for me.

I guess I can add my mom to the idiot relative list. But she's really not that bad. Most of the time.