What are your pet peeves? - Page 28

Prudence · 09-05-2006, 01:54 PM

My pet peeve of the day:

There is a contractor who, for reasons unknown to me, is giving out my home phone number as his business number. (Well, technically I have two numbers with different rings, and he's giving out the one I don't use, but they both go to the same phone and the same voice mail box.)

I have received calls from Dunn & Bradstreet, the State of Washington Employment Securities division, and more banks than I can count. Just today a message was left from Wells Fargo regarding information needed on their business loan application. Which tells me that yes, they are indeed currently giving out my number, as I doubt Wells Fargo has so much expendable man power that they're calling on abandoned loan applications from 3 years ago.

I have had this phone number since March of 2004. I get TONS of telemarketer spam on that line because it theoretically belongs to a business and is therefore exempt from the do not call list.

So, today I am finally annoyed enough to put the mad librarian skillz into action. The State of WA puts their contractor license stuff online. And wouldn't you know it, there's their entry, complete with *MY* phone number. So I called the contractor licensing people, who were Not Amused and pulled the file for "further investigation." Oh, and delisted my phone number right away. Which won't stop European Installation General Contracting Inc. from giving it out nonetheless, but may perhaps get them into some sort of trouble.

I'd post their address here and invite you to send them obnoxious mailings, but their address is probably someone else's, too.

I can tell you that they won't be getting a loan from Wells Fargo, who isn't amused by applicants who give out false numbers. Something about lacking confidence...

Mousey Girl · 09-06-2006, 03:30 PM

I am ticked. This Saturday night one of my closest friends is taking me to Brews in the Village for my b-day. Dawn has been trying to invite herself for a month. I kept blowing her off. I don't want her to go because when she is around I am ignored by my husband. She called this morning, she is going. Not with us, but with 2 other women that I can't stand. Luckily it is a huge place and we may not even see them. Unfortunatly I know her well enough to know that she will try to hang out with David the entire night. It is a public place and I can't stop her from being there, but gosh darn it, it is my b-day and I don't want to spend it with her!

Ok, now that I feel small and petty I will say that I don't even want to go now. If it wasn't for the friend that I am going with, and her looking forward to it, I wouldn't be going.

BarTopDancer · 09-06-2006, 05:13 PM

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Originally Posted by Mousey Girl

I am ticked. This Saturday night one of my closest friends is taking me to Brews in the Village for my b-day. Dawn has been trying to invite herself for a month. I kept blowing her off. I don't want her to go because when she is around I am ignored by my husband. She called this morning, she is going. Not with us, but with 2 other women that I can't stand. Luckily it is a huge place and we may not even see them. Unfortunatly I know her well enough to know that she will try to hang out with David the entire night. It is a public place and I can't stop her from being there, but gosh darn it, it is my b-day and I don't want to spend it with her!

Ok, now that I feel small and petty I will say that I don't even want to go now. If it wasn't for the friend that I am going with, and her looking forward to it, I wouldn't be going.

Have you told David your issue with Dawn? Have you pointed out how he ignores you when she is around? At the very least can you make it crystal clear to David (or your friends) that you want a Dawn free birthday? Can you get your friends to take you somewhere else, or move the time? Or tell Dawn you're going to another place? Or for that matter, tell Dawn to back the FVCK off? I'm ticked for you

BarTopDancer · 09-06-2006, 05:15 PM

ASAP means as soon as possible. Not right-this-very-second-and-if-you-don't-fix-it-right-now-i'm-going-to-throw-a-fit.

Your issue is not job critical. Get over it.

Mousey Girl · 09-06-2006, 06:46 PM

I have told him this, he doesn't care. It does me no good to try to talk to him about it, he just twists it and throws it back at me.

I just talked to the friend who is taking me out. She is such a good person. She said that we will just not have anything to do with her, and do our own thing.

We would go somewhere else, but this is a once a year thing and we have been looking forward to it. We went last year and had a blast. It is about the only time you can go out and drink and not have to deal with drunk teeny boppers. http://www.bakersfieldbrews.com/care.html

Hopefully we won't even see them.

Prudence · 09-27-2006, 08:23 AM

Somedays working on campus is a big ol' pet peeve. I know it's a university and I'm prepared to deal with the usual associated noise of students and protesters and bad performance artists and the like. But geeze louise - a 2 hour amplified hip hop concert RIGHT OUTSIDE ME WINDOW?!?! There comes a point where the disruption is significant enough that we should be sent home or at least given an alternate work space. How am I supposed to focus on balancing budgets and projecting for the next biennium when there's a big ol' amplified concert right outside?

Ghoulish Delight · 10-10-2006, 10:19 AM

* Crossing guards at intersections with traffic lights.

* Sheltering children from the concept of winning and losing. Case in point, my company picnic where the youngest children played a game of musical chairs and each "winner" (i.e., loser) was given a prize when they failed to get a chair (although I do give them credit for at least playing the game as intended, unlike a version I saw once where there were as many chairs as participants

)

It's all a misguided interpretation of the concept of building self-esteem. There seems to be a belief the one must never let your kid think that they can't lose or do anything wrong at anything ever. THAT'S not the definition of self esteem, and sheltering them will simply leave them unequipped for times in life when they will, inevitably, indeed lose or do something wrong. Self esteem is instilling in them the idea that even if they lose, that doesn't affect their self worth. It's not about preventing them from losing, it's about showing them that losing is not a reflection of who they are. All this "everyone's a winner" crap does is teach them that losing is the worst possible thing that can happen, and it simply isn't. Grrrrrr.

€uroMeinke · 10-10-2006, 10:27 AM

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Originally Posted by Ghoulish Delight

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* Sheltering children from the concept of winning and losing.

The gods must be with you, I read you post after finishing this NPR feature, Failure is a Good Thing.

Capt Jack · 10-10-2006, 10:27 AM

omg I couldnt agree more!

some of the strongest lessons in life are obtained through falling short of a goal.
lessons like:
if at first you dont succeed, try try again
nobody's perfect
sh!t happens
forgiveness begins in the mirror

and the ever popular
get over it

(I'd mojo ya iffin' I could)

katiesue · 10-10-2006, 10:52 AM

I agree as well. Also how to you learn to be a gracious looser if you never loose?

09-05-2006, 01:54 PM	#271
Prudence Beelzeboobs, Esq. Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Gavel - I haz it Posts: 6,287	My pet peeve of the day: There is a contractor who, for reasons unknown to me, is giving out my home phone number as his business number. (Well, technically I have two numbers with different rings, and he's giving out the one I don't use, but they both go to the same phone and the same voice mail box.) I have received calls from Dunn & Bradstreet, the State of Washington Employment Securities division, and more banks than I can count. Just today a message was left from Wells Fargo regarding information needed on their business loan application. Which tells me that yes, they are indeed currently giving out my number, as I doubt Wells Fargo has so much expendable man power that they're calling on abandoned loan applications from 3 years ago. I have had this phone number since March of 2004. I get TONS of telemarketer spam on that line because it theoretically belongs to a business and is therefore exempt from the do not call list. So, today I am finally annoyed enough to put the mad librarian skillz into action. The State of WA puts their contractor license stuff online. And wouldn't you know it, there's their entry, complete with MY phone number. So I called the contractor licensing people, who were Not Amused and pulled the file for "further investigation." Oh, and delisted my phone number right away. Which won't stop European Installation General Contracting Inc. from giving it out nonetheless, but may perhaps get them into some sort of trouble. I'd post their address here and invite you to send them obnoxious mailings, but their address is probably someone else's, too. I can tell you that they won't be getting a loan from Wells Fargo, who isn't amused by applicants who give out false numbers. Something about lacking confidence... __________________ traguna macoities tracorum satis de
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09-06-2006, 03:30 PM	#272
Mousey Girl Just Me Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: In The Flagon With The Dragon Posts: 2,437	I am ticked. This Saturday night one of my closest friends is taking me to Brews in the Village for my b-day. Dawn has been trying to invite herself for a month. I kept blowing her off. I don't want her to go because when she is around I am ignored by my husband. She called this morning, she is going. Not with us, but with 2 other women that I can't stand. Luckily it is a huge place and we may not even see them. Unfortunatly I know her well enough to know that she will try to hang out with David the entire night. It is a public place and I can't stop her from being there, but gosh darn it, it is my b-day and I don't want to spend it with her! Ok, now that I feel small and petty I will say that I don't even want to go now. If it wasn't for the friend that I am going with, and her looking forward to it, I wouldn't be going.
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09-06-2006, 05:15 PM	#274
BarTopDancer Prepping... Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Here, there, everywhere Posts: 11,405	ASAP means as soon as possible. Not right-this-very-second-and-if-you-don't-fix-it-right-now-i'm-going-to-throw-a-fit. Your issue is not job critical. Get over it. __________________ Spork is the new MacGyver Postcards From My Edge
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09-06-2006, 06:46 PM	#275
Mousey Girl Just Me Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: In The Flagon With The Dragon Posts: 2,437	I have told him this, he doesn't care. It does me no good to try to talk to him about it, he just twists it and throws it back at me. I just talked to the friend who is taking me out. She is such a good person. She said that we will just not have anything to do with her, and do our own thing. We would go somewhere else, but this is a once a year thing and we have been looking forward to it. We went last year and had a blast. It is about the only time you can go out and drink and not have to deal with drunk teeny boppers. http://www.bakersfieldbrews.com/care.html Hopefully we won't even see them.
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09-27-2006, 08:23 AM	#276
Prudence Beelzeboobs, Esq. Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Gavel - I haz it Posts: 6,287	Somedays working on campus is a big ol' pet peeve. I know it's a university and I'm prepared to deal with the usual associated noise of students and protesters and bad performance artists and the like. But geeze louise - a 2 hour amplified hip hop concert RIGHT OUTSIDE ME WINDOW?!?! There comes a point where the disruption is significant enough that we should be sent home or at least given an alternate work space. How am I supposed to focus on balancing budgets and projecting for the next biennium when there's a big ol' amplified concert right outside? __________________ traguna macoities tracorum satis de
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10-10-2006, 10:19 AM	#277
Ghoulish Delight I Floop the Pig Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Alternative Swankstyle Posts: 19,348	* Crossing guards at intersections with traffic lights. * Sheltering children from the concept of winning and losing. Case in point, my company picnic where the youngest children played a game of musical chairs and each "winner" (i.e., loser) was given a prize when they failed to get a chair (although I do give them credit for at least playing the game as intended, unlike a version I saw once where there were as many chairs as participants ) It's all a misguided interpretation of the concept of building self-esteem. There seems to be a belief the one must never let your kid think that they can't lose or do anything wrong at anything ever. THAT'S not the definition of self esteem, and sheltering them will simply leave them unequipped for times in life when they will, inevitably, indeed lose or do something wrong. Self esteem is instilling in them the idea that even if they lose, that doesn't affect their self worth. It's not about preventing them from losing, it's about showing them that losing is not a reflection of who they are. All this "everyone's a winner" crap does is teach them that losing is the worst possible thing that can happen, and it simply isn't. Grrrrrr. __________________ 'He who receives an idea from me, receives instruction himself without lessening mine; as he who lights his taper at mine, receives light without darkening me.' -TJ Last edited by Ghoulish Delight : 10-10-2006 at 10:42 AM.
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10-10-2006, 10:27 AM	#279
Capt Jack check your head Join Date: Oct 2005 Posts: 4,174	omg I couldnt agree more! some of the strongest lessons in life are obtained through falling short of a goal. lessons like: if at first you dont succeed, try try again nobody's perfect sh!t happens forgiveness begins in the mirror and the ever popular get over it (I'd mojo ya iffin' I could) __________________ a clear conscience is a sure sign of a fuzzy memory
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10-10-2006, 10:52 AM	#280
katiesue Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: San Diego Posts: 4,678	I agree as well. Also how to you learn to be a gracious looser if you never loose? __________________ My life is so exciting I can hardly stand it.
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