Anxiety Attacks.

[Ghoulish Delight]

Bleh.

You know, as our proposed move date creeps ever closer, I think back to the last time we moved. We too managed to overlap moving and travel times. The result was a maddening sequence of events: I graduated, we had a week to pack everything, then we went to Italy for 2 weeks, came back, had 2 days to move, and I started a new job on day 3.

Here I am 5 years later...and I have absolutely no frigging clue how we did it. I must have blocked the horror from my mind, because I have no recollection of the events leading up to move day. I recall the actual move going relatively smoothly, so that must mean we worked our butts off in that preceding week and go everything ready to go...but I sure as hell don't remember it.

So, um, I guess I'm saying that I deal with the anxiety by completely forgetting about it afterwards. I suppose that doesn't help when it's still in front of you, as I'm learning myself right now as I feel totally unprepared for this move.

[Strangler Lewis]

I know you didn't ask for solutions, but as a man and an attorney, that's really all I know how to give. The solution is that unless you are going to forfeit a lot of money by doing so, postpone/cancel your vacation. Why, I have many pleasant memories of vacations/weekends that I've put off due to unexpected work explosions, the not-quite-so-unexpected death of my father, etc. You need time, and you need to save money to have a roof over your head (or so it seems from your tone). It's rare that one can actually remove a cause of anxiety. Here you can.

[Eliza Hodgkins 1812]

Originally Posted by Strangler Lewis

I know you didn't ask for solutions, but as a man and an attorney, that's really all I know how to give. The solution is that unless you are going to forfeit a lot of money by doing so, postpone/cancel your vacation. Why, I have many pleasant memories of vacations/weekends that I've put off due to unexpected work explosions, the not-quite-so-unexpected death of my father, etc. You need time, and you need to save money to have a roof over your head (or so it seems from your tone). It's rare that one can actually remove a cause of anxiety. Here you can.

Can't, for mental reasons and fiscal ones. If I understand correctly, the flight (a birthday gift) isn't refundable. Also, I haven't had a vacation in two years, and part of this anxiety is the result of really needing to getaway. My parents can always help me in a pinch (I can bunk with them for a couple of weeks if I can't secure the place in the time planned). I'm sure some of this, in addition to the planning, is simply having to deal with the roommate situation while I'm figuring this all out. It's a sticky, sad situation, though it's not as terrible as I was expecting after breaking the news of my leaving to her.

Anyway, thanks. I do appreciate the advice. I'm sure that would be the easiest resolution, but it's not gonna happen.

[Eliza Hodgkins 1812]

Originally Posted by Ghoulish Delight

So, um, I guess I'm saying that I deal with the anxiety by completely forgetting about it afterwards. I suppose that doesn't help when it's still in front of you, as I'm learning myself right now as I feel totally unprepared for this move.

Coping with moves is supposed to be right below coping with death on the stress scale. I've had some close-call (how will I get packed in time?!?!?!) moves. I'll just have to plan a head and be packed well in advance. Good thing I've already started that phase.

Okay, I seem to be calming down a bit. You guys have been great. Really.

[tracilicious]

Originally Posted by Eliza Hodgkins 1812

Coping with moves is supposed to be right below coping with death on the stress scale. I've had some close-call (how will I get packed in time?!?!?!) moves. I'll just have to plan a head and be packed well in advance. Good thing I've already started that phase.

True that. I feel like since I survived the move from hell (in which the house that we would be moving to wasn't available in time and the house we were in had already been given notice on) while nine months pregnant and planning a homebirth, there isn't anything short of death that could possibly be worse.

There were definitely anxiety attacks in that situation. I handled it mainly by freaking out a lot, crying, vomitting and pacing. Oh, then I made a plan. The plan helped probably the most.