Has this ever happened to you?

[Tito's Kitten]

Howdy. It has been sometime since I have written in the LoT but I just had to write about this today...


I find that there are some people in this world that have no shame. These people without shame always seem to find me.

Today I was visiting with another mother from my son's class. We were at her house and while I am nothing really but an acquiantance to her (we have never hung out more than 25 minutes at a time together or gone out or anything) she has never felt the need to censor her life from me. I know about her husband's job troubles, their late mortgage payments, car and ex-husband issues etc. (things I would confide to a close friend not to an almost stranger) I thought well maybe she is just able to express herself better maybe I am the who shouldn't feel shame about spilling my life to public. I don't really think that anymore though after today. I think today she may have crossed the line.

She was folding clothes in her house (her house was very messy too, and that to me is weird since if my house was that messy I would NEVER let anyone hang out with me while I cleaned...) and she found a shirt and said I should have it since I had bigger breasts. I was like ummm.. okay. Then she said yeah see I don't have big boobs, then she lifted her shirt to show me her breasts. (While this was terribly exciting to my boyfriend it wasn't so for me.) She then walked across the room to where I was seated with her breasts still exposed and proceeded to show me an up close view of a pimple in the cleavage of her breasts that has been bugging her. As she poked at this red mass beween her breasts, and I being totally mortified and shocked that this woman's chest is in my face, she then made it worse by saying "Yeah this pimple has been bugging me for a few days. It goes deep. FEEL IT....." ( she may have said something else after feel it but I just kind of lost track when I those words spilled from her mouth.) I looked into her eyes and was so cool saying "Umm, yeah it looks bad, it might be like a cyst or something...." Hoping she would not actually expect me to feel a damn pimple between her breasts.Then she pulled down her shirt and went back to folding her laundry as if nothing happened.

Sorry this is such a long story but it had to be told. I know someone out there has to have a worse story than this. Please make me feel better and share.

[SacTown Chronic]

Ah, the elusive third nipple. It's good to have a confirmed sighting of such a legendary piece of American folklore.

Originally Posted by Tito's Kitten

I know someone out there has to have a worse story than this. Please make me feel better and share.

Nope. This is the worst thing that's ever happened to anyone in the history of the world.






In her own words:

said I should have it since I had bigger breasts

.

I was like ummm

she lifted her shirt to show me her breasts

this was terribly exciting

her breasts still exposed and proceeded to show me an up close view

this woman's chest is in my face

It goes deep. FEEL IT.....

I just kind of lost track when I those words spilled from her mouth.

I looked into her eyes and was so cool saying "Umm, yeah

Then she pulled down her shirt and went back to folding her laundry as if nothing happened.

I need a cigarette.

[Kevy Baby]

One of the interesting things in life is the wide array of individuals.

We all have our own limits and boundaries about certain things. What might be considered a messy house for you, is acceptable to others. Conversly, your house might be considered too messy for visitors by other individuals. C'est la Vie!

Also, topics of discussion (divorce, job troubles, etc.) while some might consider taboo to relative strangers, others may be in such desparate need to talk about them, reach out to anyone who might listen. On those topics, I suspect that this woman is haviing trouble processing all of this information in her life and desparately wants (consciously or sub-consciously) to talk about them in an effort to deal with something that is troubling her emotionally. Though you may not be in a position to tell her, and/or you may not be comfortable telling her, she really probably should be seeing a therapist.

However, there are certain societal boundaries that could/should be common. While those boundaries may vary (what our little group would not give a second thought to would be shameful to others), I believe showing her breasts to a relative stranger as she did is quite odd. My suspicion is that she is so troubled by all of the things going on her life (and she may not have even scratched the surface of what is REALLY going on), she has lost sight of boundaries.

OR

She was coming on to you and wanted to engage you (and possibly your boyfriend) in a tryst.

[Cadaverous Pallor]

I would have laughed nervously when she lifted her shirt, turned away, and said something like "Hey, now now, let's keep our clothes on!" This half-joking attitude works best for such awful situations.

I feel for ya.

[Not Afraid]

I really don't mind assumed familiarity but this seems to go just a bit too far. I really sounds like she was trying to get some other reaction out of you and with a too-overt manner. I would've been uncomfortable.

[alphabassettgrrl]

Nope, I have not had an acquaintance show me her boobies. Where do I meet such a woman?

Honestly, she's probably hurting and can't show it. You are a friendly face. I sort of understand, because I myself sometimes have boundary issues, and trouble dealing with emotional stuff. Freaks me out; I can handle others' emotions, but not my own.

[€uroMeinke]

As a guy, I support Kevy's second hypothesis.

[innerSpaceman]

Originally Posted by Not Afraid

I really don't mind assumed familiarity but this seems to go just a bit too far.

Hmmm, I seem to remember a certain scar on a certain bare breast that was shown (perhaps inadvertently) to many a Disneyland casual passer-by.

[Not Afraid]

Oh yeah, wanna see my scar? I have no problem showing it or asking someone if they want to see it. However, I still have been somewhat discreet about it. (God forbit the all important nipplage is hidden at all times) But, the boobs as just a body part for medical invasion doesn't work for some. I see a line, but maybe mine is in a different place.

[wendybeth]

I'm still grossed out by the zit thing.