Love to Dexter

Not Afraid · 05-23-2007, 12:52 PM

I got Dexter just over 10 years ago from an adoption agency at PetSmart. He as about 5 months old and an adorable little boy. I was right in the middle of absolute HELL in my life. I was getting divorced, my Mother had just died, my sister was taking us all to court over my parents’ estate, the company I was working for went belly-up and I was doing a lot of self-medicating. I had gotten one of the former “our” cats in the divorce settlement and decided Aloysius needed a friend.

Dexter was different from any cat I’ve ever had. I was never a fan of the stripped variety but I wanted something new and different. They had named him “Brownie” at the adoption agency. He was in a cage with a big, cross-eyes black cat. After I held him, I put him back in the cage and he immediately started “making biscuits” on the other cat. He was obviously a friendly boy. I named him C.K.Dexter Haven after the Cary Grant character in The Philladelphia Story- my favorite movie.

Aloisious was not too excited when I brought Dexter home, but within a day I caught them curled up together on a chair. Dex could win over anyone. Whenever I came home, he trotted across the floor very excited to see me. We used to “talk” for him and I know he was saying “Mommy’s home! Mommy’s home!” He’d roll over on his back and wait for me to rub his belly. He never did this for anyone else.

He had some intenstional problems at first and, one day, he got some poop stuck to his foot. You know how nick names evolve? It’s just one of those things. But, after that day poopie kitty became Pookie – is other name – and the name we call him most. It is also the name he knows best. (He also thinks his name is “Cute” or “Turkey”.

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My life continued to be tumultuous – to say the least. I ended another relationship, moved in with another friend and started the long road to attempt to repair and regain my life. Dexter seemed to be the only bit of stability I had in my life. He gave me unconditional love, hours of entertainment, shared my egg mcmuffin breakfasts and, at night, spooned with me in bed with his head on the pillow – like a little human. I had never loved a pet as much as I loved Dexter and, at that time in my life, he was sometimes the only thing that kept me going. It now seems like a lot of responsibility for a little boy.

Slowly, my life got better. Dex rolled with the many moves and the introduction of new brothers (both feline and canine). He has always been a happy, easy going kitty with other animals. He loves all of his current brothers but especially loves Scoundrel. The two of them can usually be found snuggled together in a sunny spot. It is the Ying and Yang of cats – the VERY good and the VERY bad.

I learned today that Dexter has cancer. It is an aggressive form on a sarcoma in his jaw bone. There is no way to operate or treat it. So, for now, I just have to enjoy the time I have left with him and make him as comfortable as possible. Someday soon, I may have to say goodbye to my very first (and best) love, but until then, all of the turkey, tuna and love is his for the asking.

AllyOops! · 05-23-2007, 12:59 PM

Oh, Lisa! I'm so very, very sorry. I know just how much you love him & I can totally see why. He's such an adorable little guy!!

You, Chris & Dexter will all be in my prayers. I know the pain of losing a beloved pet to cancer. Enjoy the time that you two have, and make the most of every moment. On those dark days, let those memories be the light.

Lots of love & hugs,
~A

Morrigoon · 05-23-2007, 01:02 PM

*hugs* Dexter couldn't have asked for better "parents" than you

innerSpaceman · 05-23-2007, 01:08 PM

and

(sometimes we need a crying logo, not just the sad one)

Love Love LOVE to Dexter! Sweetest Cat. What a happy life you helped him attain, and he added so much to yours.

So keep him comfie as long as possible ... and then do what most of us would want to happen when confronted with the protractedness of ultimate ick.

<Hugs All Around>

BarTopDancer · 05-23-2007, 01:15 PM

kitty.

LSPoorEeyorick · 05-23-2007, 01:19 PM

Aw, our love and sympathy-- from Tom, Lillian, Dorothy and myself.

DreadPirateRoberts · 05-23-2007, 01:27 PM

Kevy Baby · 05-23-2007, 01:28 PM

Okay, I have to admit to being a little choked up at the moment. After reading such a loving and heartfelt story (even though we already know how much you love your kibbies), and then to learn the terrible news is just painful. Please know that we send our love and support to you and Pookie (and Chris, Scoundrel, and all the rest).

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Originally Posted by Not Afraid

I named him C.K.Dexter Haven after the Cary Grant character in The Philladelphia Story- my favorite movie.

I never knew that: neither the genesis of his name nor that The Philadelphia Story is your favorite movie.

blueerica · 05-23-2007, 01:23 PM

We love Pookie! YAY!

OK, I'm in the computer lab on campus and I'm starting to tear up. I need to get a little bit of a grip. Dexter is one of the sweetest cats I've ever had the pleasure of meeting. Enjoy the time you have with him, and know he's had the joy of your company as well.

Stan4dSteph · 05-23-2007, 01:29 PM

I wasn't really a cat person until I met your cats. They won me over, especially Dexter. His run to the fridge for turkey always made me smile.

Here's hoping that the remaining time is full of love and turkey. Big hugs to you Pookie.

05-23-2007, 12:52 PM	#1
Not Afraid HI! Join Date: Jan 2005 Posts: 17,108	Love to Dexter I got Dexter just over 10 years ago from an adoption agency at PetSmart. He as about 5 months old and an adorable little boy. I was right in the middle of absolute HELL in my life. I was getting divorced, my Mother had just died, my sister was taking us all to court over my parents’ estate, the company I was working for went belly-up and I was doing a lot of self-medicating. I had gotten one of the former “our” cats in the divorce settlement and decided Aloysius needed a friend. Dexter was different from any cat I’ve ever had. I was never a fan of the stripped variety but I wanted something new and different. They had named him “Brownie” at the adoption agency. He was in a cage with a big, cross-eyes black cat. After I held him, I put him back in the cage and he immediately started “making biscuits” on the other cat. He was obviously a friendly boy. I named him C.K.Dexter Haven after the Cary Grant character in The Philladelphia Story- my favorite movie. Aloisious was not too excited when I brought Dexter home, but within a day I caught them curled up together on a chair. Dex could win over anyone. Whenever I came home, he trotted across the floor very excited to see me. We used to “talk” for him and I know he was saying “Mommy’s home! Mommy’s home!” He’d roll over on his back and wait for me to rub his belly. He never did this for anyone else. He had some intenstional problems at first and, one day, he got some poop stuck to his foot. You know how nick names evolve? It’s just one of those things. But, after that day poopie kitty became Pookie – is other name – and the name we call him most. It is also the name he knows best. (He also thinks his name is “Cute” or “Turkey”. ) My life continued to be tumultuous – to say the least. I ended another relationship, moved in with another friend and started the long road to attempt to repair and regain my life. Dexter seemed to be the only bit of stability I had in my life. He gave me unconditional love, hours of entertainment, shared my egg mcmuffin breakfasts and, at night, spooned with me in bed with his head on the pillow – like a little human. I had never loved a pet as much as I loved Dexter and, at that time in my life, he was sometimes the only thing that kept me going. It now seems like a lot of responsibility for a little boy. Slowly, my life got better. Dex rolled with the many moves and the introduction of new brothers (both feline and canine). He has always been a happy, easy going kitty with other animals. He loves all of his current brothers but especially loves Scoundrel. The two of them can usually be found snuggled together in a sunny spot. It is the Ying and Yang of cats – the VERY good and the VERY bad. I learned today that Dexter has cancer. It is an aggressive form on a sarcoma in his jaw bone. There is no way to operate or treat it. So, for now, I just have to enjoy the time I have left with him and make him as comfortable as possible. Someday soon, I may have to say goodbye to my very first (and best) love, but until then, all of the turkey, tuna and love is his for the asking.
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AllyOops! It's Peanut Butter Jelly Time!!! Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Introspection Intersection Posts: 1,207	Oh, Lisa! I'm so very, very sorry. I know just how much you love him & I can totally see why. He's such an adorable little guy!! You, Chris & Dexter will all be in my prayers. I know the pain of losing a beloved pet to cancer. Enjoy the time that you two have, and make the most of every moment. On those dark days, let those memories be the light. Lots of love & hugs, ~A Last edited by AllyOops! : 05-23-2007 at 01:26 PM. Reason: font error
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innerSpaceman Kink of Swank Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Inner Space Posts: 13,075	and (sometimes we need a crying logo, not just the sad one) Love Love LOVE to Dexter! Sweetest Cat. What a happy life you helped him attain, and he added so much to yours. So keep him comfie as long as possible ... and then do what most of us would want to happen when confronted with the protractedness of ultimate ick. <Hugs All Around>
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blueerica Nueve Join Date: Jan 2005 Posts: 6,497	We love Pookie! YAY! OK, I'm in the computer lab on campus and I'm starting to tear up. I need to get a little bit of a grip. Dexter is one of the sweetest cats I've ever had the pleasure of meeting. Enjoy the time you have with him, and know he's had the joy of your company as well. __________________ Tomorrow is the day for you and me Last edited by blueerica : 05-23-2007 at 01:59 PM.
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Stan4dSteph Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: East Bay Area, CA Posts: 3,156	I wasn't really a cat person until I met your cats. They won me over, especially Dexter. His run to the fridge for turkey always made me smile. Here's hoping that the remaining time is full of love and turkey. Big hugs to you Pookie.
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