Why I'm Thankful This Thanksgiving & Every Day

[BDBopper]

The calendar has turned its page to Thanksgiving week. It is time to pause a moment and reflect on the many blessings we have received. I realize that these are tough times economically however while our wallets may be less ful let us remember that we may still be "rich" with the things that really matter - friends, family, love in our hearts, a roof over our head, and respect for our fellow man.

I especially have much to be thankful for on Thanksgiving. In fact my story once appeared on the front page of the local section of the Atlanta Journal & Constitution on Thanksgiving of 2000. While some of the info is outdated the story is not and I want to share.

Thankful for . . .
Their son, 18, who faced dire prognoses when he was born
Robert Haddocks - Staff
Thursday, November 23, 2000

Brian Donegan was born with a bilateral cleft lip and palate so severe that his mouth was agape and he essentially did not have a nose. He had a heart defect that deprived him of oxygen, and he was blind. If that were not enough to deal with, pneumonia set in. And when he was barely 2 months old, Brian's chest was ripped open by doctors who repaired his heart in the first of 10 surgeries he would have before his second birthday.

"The prognosis was real grim," said his mother, Carol Donegan of Lawrenceville. Doctors told her and her husband, David, that if Brian survived it would most likely be in a vegetative state. At the time of his birth, they gave him six weeks to live.

That was 18 years ago. Today, Brian is a bright, energetic, ambitious high school senior with an indomitable spirit and a remarkably positive outlook.
"If something gets me down, it doesn't get me down for long," Brian said. "I'm not ever down for the count. I always find something to look positively on." He quickly counters any perceived negative with a balancing positive. His most bothersome limitation is his vision. He's legally blind, which keeps him from having a driver's license. "Sometimes, people are busy, and I can't get to where I want to go, but my parents make plenty of accommodations, and they do the very best they can," he said.

Defying the doctors' prognoses, Brian is not only healthy, he's a straight A student who scored 1110 on the SAT. Dressed in jeans and a bright orange Parkview High School sweatshirt, Brian is an ordinary kid. An avid sports fan, he has a bedroom decorated with Atlanta sports paraphernalia, mostly from the Braves. Like most teens, he enjoys spending time on the computer, hammering at an electronic keyboard, and, in a slight deviation from the norm, listening to music from the 1950s. One of his hobbies is spinning records, and he plans on majoring in broadcast journalism at a university in Georgia and becoming an "oldies" disc jockey.

David Donegan believes Brian will overcome any obstacle in his path --- as he always has. Brian plans to live close to public transportation or "make his mark on the world where he's independently wealthy and he can have a driver," his father said. "Whatever he does, I feel he'll make an impact on this world, and the world will be a better place because he's here."

"He is such a constant surprise," Carol said of her son, who volunteers at the Center for the Visually Impaired in Atlanta and is co-president of the center's STARS (Social Therapeutic And Recreational Services) program.
"He has a lot going for him and has a personality that can handle anything that comes his way," she said. "He always has a smile and a bright spirit. We're just thankful that the doctors were able to help when he just about died 18 years ago."

Brian is scheduled for surgery on his jaw in the spring --- his 18th surgery. He endured a lot of teasing in middle school, and, although that has mostly ceased, he still has to fight against ignorance.
"My biggest obstacle has been getting people to understand my disability and to understand that I'm a human being just like everyone else, and I can do things just as well or maybe better than anyone else."

Standing in the kitchen of his Lawrenceville home, David Donegan acknowledged difficult times. But he said: "I wouldn't want to walk in anyone else's shoes." David, who has two younger sons --- Jeff, 15, and Kevin, 13 --- truly believes every day is a blessing.

"When Brian was born and they said he had six weeks to live, and he might not last that long, we just knew that we would love him and take care of him as long as we had him," he said. "And we're just happy that it's been a lot longer than six weeks," David said. "We very much left that up to God," Carol said of the early days. "You can't second guess any of that. We just had to leave that up to God, and he did a pretty good job. He did a great job."

As you can see I am thankful for many things and I just want to let you know that I am thankful for friends, like y'all here on The LoT. a special place in my heart is reserved for y'all.

Happy Thanksgiving!

[alphabassettgrrl]

Awesome opening post, BD!

It is good to remember things for which we are grateful.

My family. My friends. The 'net which allows me to communicate easily with said friends. My hound. My kitty. I have a job. My husband, for whom I am also grateful, has a job. My relationship lets me be myself. I have a house. I live in a city where I generally feel safe.

Thank you to the universe which has taken such good care of me.

[wendybeth]

Thanks for sharing your story, BD- it's remarkable, inspiring and means a lot to me as the parent of a great kid who's faced some challenges in her life early on as well. I'm pretty proud of her, and your parents must feel the same way about you. Everyone deals with adversity in their lifetime, but some just get it out of the way sooner. I think in some ways those people are lucky- they learn early on what are the truly important things in life, they don't waste time on negatives, and they live their lives with more appreciation of the simple things like friendship, family and love.

I have a lot to be thankful for. I'm thankful for my family and friends. I am thankful for my country, and especially thankful that this election year delivered us back to what I consider sanity. (Or something close to that). I hope to be thankful for true equality for all men and women of this nation, and I am thankful for all who work toward that end. I am especially thankful for my girl- she's just an awesome kid and I am eternally grateful for her presence in my life. I really am blessed.

[~MS~]

Above all else, I'm thankful for the gift of time...time with both the hubby when his health has given me more than one white hair over the last few years and even more ....the gift of Missy in my life for however much longer we get...it was way to close to being over and I just wasn't ready for it to be, no parent should ever have to bury a child...so while I am thankful for having the means to provide a roof and meals and entertainment we all enjoy none of those would matter without the people most important to share it with.