Lust trumps love when it comes to having sex

[Kevy Baby]

Lust trumps love when it comes to having sex
Study finds there aren’t many gender differences in reasons for intimacy

WASHINGTON - After exhaustively compiling a list of the 237 reasons why people have sex, researchers found that young men and women get intimate for mostly the same motivations.

Now, I question the authenticity of the top ten (and bottom five) reasons for either gender having sex. I say this because I know that had I been handed a similar survey while in college, I would have messed with the answers: there would have been a high probability for me to answer "I wanted to punish myself." or "The person offered to give me drugs for doing it."

[AllyOops!]

Ooh! Where's the list?

Despite my ribald comments and raunchy posts, the walk is a bit different then the talk for this girl. Raised very Catholic, love trumps lust for me. I can't bear all of the guilt associtated with pure lust! The "I'm going to hell" feeling that would follow just crushes me. Especially since I recently experienced a rocky last couple of years where my choice making was at its all time lowest and poorest. Total commitment phobia and no clue what or where I was going. I'm glad that awful time is long over!

Having said that, I'm completely devoted, committed, loyal and in love with my boyfriend. He inspires me and is the catalyst for all of the wonderful changes in my life that I never dreamt possible. When I grow up I'm so going to marry him. And because of that mutual love & respect? We can have lots and lots of "I'm going to wear my old highschool plaid skirt and wear those 5 inch black stillettos and break out the silk scarves and flavored oils because I might be a good girl but I'm your whore" kind of loving.

Damn, I'm still going to hell because I'm not married. It's like I just can't win with the Vatican.

[Kevy Baby]

Originally Posted by AllyOops!

Ooh! Where's the list?

Oops. Forgot the link, so here it is.

And here are the lists:

Top reasons for having sex

The top and bottom reasons for having sex from a list of 237 that college-aged men and women gave University of Texas researchers:
Men's top 10 reasons:
1. I was attracted to the person.
2. It feels good.
3. I wanted to experience physical pleasure.
4. It’s fun.
5. I wanted to show my affection to the person.
6. I was sexually aroused and wanted the release.
7. I was “horny.”
8. I wanted to express my love for the person.
9. I wanted to achieve an orgasm.
10. I wanted to please my partner.


Women's top 10 reasons:
1. I was attracted to the person.
2. I wanted to experience physical pleasure.
3. It feels good.
4. I wanted to show my affection to the person.
5. I wanted to express my love for the person.
6. I was sexually aroused and wanted the release.
7. I was “horny.”
8. It’s fun.
9. I realized I was in love.
10. I was “in the heat of the moment.”


Men's bottom 5 reasons:
1. The person offered to give me drugs for doing it.
2. I wanted to give someone else a sexually transmitted disease.
3. I wanted to punish myself.
4. I wanted to break up my relationship.
5. I wanted to get a job.


Women's bottom 5 reasons:
1. I wanted to give someone else a sexually transmitted disease.
2. Someone offered me money to do it.
3. I wanted to get a raise.
4. It was an initiation rite to a club or organization.
5. I wanted to get a job.

Source: The Associated Press

[Alex]

How in the world is "I wanted to experience physical pleasure" and "It feels good" different things? Actually, pretty much all of the top reasons are some variation on "it's fun and the other person was amenable."

I'm guessing most of the options boil down to

1. It's fun.
2. I thought I would get something out of it.
3. I was forced/manipulated into it.

[blueerica]

Physical pleasure could probably be distinguished from feeling good, as "I wanted to experience physical pleasure" specifies the physical, and "It feels good" could contain an emotional component (even if the emotion is exhilaration).

I do tend to agree that it's redundant, but that's at least a possible explanation.

[Alex]

Ok, thin but I'll buy it. So challenge number 2, what is the distinction between "I was horny" and "I was sexually aroused and wanted the release"?

[blueerica]

Umm.... Some people like to use big words (extra long statement), other people don't (me so horny)?

Ya got me there.

[Capt Jack]

making love doesnt always involve sex just like sex doesnt always involve making love

and as far as the original post topic of "Lust trumps love when it comes to having sex"





duh

[Kevy Baby]

Sex without love is an empty experience, but as empty experiences go, it's one of the best.

- Woody Allen

[AllyOops!]

This Thread is making me number 7