*sigh* teenagers

[Nephythys]

I am having an internal battle with myself- would I do this differently if it was Rose?

I think I have to say yes- and then examine why.

If it had been Rose I bet I would have walked in on them- but did not when it is my son. I know my main motivation was not to cause a scene and be able to discuss it without a fight- but I also suspect that our volatile history has alot to do with it. I do not want conflict- but I also do not want him to walk all over me.

*sigh* my head hurts-

I am trying to go into this as calmly as I can. In the old days I would have stormed in guns blazing- which was never to my benefit and did not encourage him to cooperate. I suspect we have to have another talk-and establish a few more guidelines of respect in the house.

* His door stays open and or unlocked when she comes over and the family (any of us) are in the house. His privacy is subject to being invaded at any time- and should it be otherwise or he violates his word that it won't happen again then he can count on people barging in.

*Should this continue in a manner that disrupts the household then she either can not come over (which I do not want to do) or I take other action- like removing his door completely, or talking to her parents.

I was in shock- and stunned yesterday. I am trying to handle it calmly for all our benefit.

I also have to question how I would have handled it if it had been Rose- and if I am being honest I would say I would have done it differently.

Davis is a test subject being the oldest- even now I am still learning.

*sigh*