Are you an akser or a Guesser?

[Ghoulish Delight]

Originally Posted by Alex

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Me: "Do you want A or B"
Her: "Uh, B. Is that ok?"
Me: "If I weren't fine with B I wouldn't have given you the option."

That.

And then there's the mirrored problem.

Her: "Do you want to do this chore?"
Me: "If I don't have a choice, why are you phrasing it like a question?"

I'll let you know when that exchange ends up working well for me.

ETA: Which reminds me of a good tip I picked up in my short ineffectual stint selling insurance. If you want to make it a question so that the person you're requesting something from feels like they have a choice, make sure you're actually giving them a choice, even if the essential request isn't a choice. e.g. Instead of, "When do you want to pick him up?" "Which would work better for you, picking him up at 7 or 8?"