Chastity Rings

[Cadaverous Pallor]

scaeagles - I totally respect what you're going for for your kids. I'm going to have a very similar talk with my future children. I'm not going to push waiting until marriage but I am going to push waiting until they're ready.

However, I've got a question - are there any other conversations with your kids that require jewelry to remind them of? Do you get them bracelets for not using drugs or a necklace for not playing with guns? Or maybe another ring will remind them to look both ways before crossing the street?

Yeah, I'm being a bit over the top but the point is salient. The deal with the Chastity Rings usually is an "I'm married to God until I marry someone else because I want to remain Pure" kind of deal. If that's not the point of the ring, then what is? A visual reminder to be good? Or an actual bribe?

Again, I mean no disrespect but I do not get this concept outside of the "sex is dirty" context.

[Strangler Lewis]

Originally Posted by Cadaverous Pallor

The deal with the Chastity Rings usually is an "I'm married to God until I marry someone else because I want to remain Pure" kind of deal. If that's not the point of the ring, then what is? A visual reminder to be good? Or an actual bribe?

Again, I mean no disrespect but I do not get this concept outside of the "sex is dirty" context.

At my wife's old church, one of the women in the choir grew tired of singing year after year about how Mary was free from defilement. She complained and the relatively openminded priest and gay choir director agreed to change "defilement" to "corruption." This was counted as a victory. Sex was still dirty, but corruption implied that the woman was complicit in the dirt. Defilement implied that she was a passive empty vessel, but stained nonetheless.

[AllyOops!]

I'm going to go all Mombo (read: Mom-like) here: I like those rings, and even more so the message behind them. Plus, those rings aren't an obnoxious proclamation. What I'm trying to convey here is that they are rather elegant and discreet. I think they are lovely in design and message. Certainly one wears a wedding band as a reminder of one's wedding vows. I mean, it's not a belly tee-shirt that says in monster glitter letters "ASK ME ABOUT MY INTACT HYMEN AND WHY".Y'know?

If you know me, I kid around ALOT. Especially sexually. I'm quite upfront. However, in real life? I'm quite the opposite and shy. But that wasn't the question here, was it? I certainly don't judge anybody's sex life. I keep my inflatable sheep to myself and hope others do the same.

Sigh. It looks like I'll have to keep wearin' my ruby encrusted "popped cherry" knuckle rock.

[wendybeth]

Lol, Ally!


(Just this afternoon I saw a Hello Kitty toy and thought of you- good to see you!)

[scaeagles]

Originally Posted by Cadaverous Pallor

However, I've got a question - are there any other conversations with your kids that require jewelry to remind them of?

I wear a wedding ring. That is a symbol of my commitment to my wife, and among that is sexual relations with only her. So in that way it is similar - it is a wait until marriage symbol.

Jewelry has all sorts of different symbolism. My three girls (being my wife and daughters) have add a pearl necklaces that gets a pearl added every birthday. There are many other examples.

I suppose it's just what you choose to commemorate with jewelry.

[DreadPirateRoberts]

Originally Posted by scaeagles

I wear a wedding ring. That is a symbol of my commitment to my wife, and among that is sexual relations with only her. So in that way it is similar - it is a wait until marriage symbol.

Jewelry has all sorts of different symbolism. My three girls (being my wife and daughters) have add a pearl necklaces that gets a pearl added every birthday. There are many other examples.

I suppose it's just what you choose to commemorate with jewelry.

I'm thinking about designing a chastity toaster.

[wendybeth]

Originally Posted by DreadPirateRoberts

I'm thinking about designing a chastity toaster.

Perfection.

[Cadaverous Pallor]

Originally Posted by scaeagles

I wear a wedding ring. That is a symbol of my commitment to my wife, and among that is sexual relations with only her. So in that way it is similar - it is a wait until marriage symbol.

Jewelry has all sorts of different symbolism. My three girls (being my wife and daughters) have add a pearl necklaces that gets a pearl added every birthday. There are many other examples.

I suppose it's just what you choose to commemorate with jewelry.

Let me see if I have this right. You are commemorating the conversation. Having a birthday - or, by extension, graduating from high school or retiring from work - are milestones to be counted alongside "had the sex talk".

I find that interesting, mostly because I knew about sex as soon as I knew about anything else in this world and learned the details gra. As for lessons on moderation, each thing in it's own time, politeness and modesty and love....I got those every single day as well. I could never attribute my stance on sex from one conversation with my parents, or one moment of "decision".

You could try counter by saying weddings and wedding rings are the same deal, but a wedding really is a change, a turning of a corner. If you were sexually active and decided to quit getting laid (and I do mean "decided"), that would make more sense to me as a "jewelry moment". Much how like AA members celebrate their "birthday".

[wendybeth]

Omg- I Googled 'Chastity Toaster' and got a Frat Blog.

Uhm, Scaeagles? I think you have some explaining to do......