Why Did I Refuse This Random Act of Kindness? - Page 7

blueerica · 11-19-2007, 06:13 PM

Actually, there is something to "women's intuition" or so my consumer behavior/psych type classes tell me, though it often has more to do with a desire to communicate. Men tend to get very different intuition and it's not often the kind that needs to be communicated, just acted upon. I must be tired because I can't remember which of my classes this was for, but last Spring we watched a video where they had boys and girls at various ages, 4-5 9-10, etc respond to the same situations and almost invariably the girls acted one way and the boys acted a different way. It's not better or worse to be one or the other, it's just what it was, which could be genetics, conditioning, or even more likely - both.

But back on topic, I can understand the discomfort that may have come from the situation. No need to beat anyone into the ground over it, no need to figure much out - I just think the whole scenario seemed rather odd. I'm totally in Alex's corner with this one - it was asked entirely in the wrong order. Maybe it didn't warrant walking out, but... it is what it is. On the other hand, I prefer €'s analysis... I like caffeinated illicit sex. Or whatever that was. All I saw was sex. And illicit.

NirvanaMan · 11-19-2007, 06:41 PM

Are you sure the offer of good deed came from a young college student and not a christmas woodland creature? If the latter, I think you chose wisely.

Not Afraid · 11-19-2007, 09:55 PM

Christmas Woodland Creature?

Whale day!

Snowflake · 11-26-2007, 04:51 PM

I happened to read the starbucks cup today, they've got a "promotion" called Pass the Cheer. Offer to buy the drink of the person behind you. Or the retelling of a story, to inspire cheer and paying it forward, or backwards.

Wonder if this is what the college student was all about?

Quote:

Starbucks Iconic Red Cups Turn Ten
Nothing signals the arrival of the holidays more than coffee drinkers sipping from the Starbucks red cup. Celebrating its 10th holiday this year, this seasonal classic will feature “cheer stories” inspired by the wonderful spirit of Starbucks customers. One featured story recounts the tale of a Starbucks Drive-Thru in California where a customer spontaneously decided to pay for the drink for the person behind him. That delighted person was in turn inspired to pay for the drink for the person behind her, who then acted in kind, inspiring a chain reaction of cheer-passing that lasted for many more cars in line. And what better source for inspiration than Starbucks® legendary holiday beverages.

Snowflake · 11-26-2007, 06:21 PM

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That delighted person was in turn inspired to pay for the drink for the person behind her, who then acted in kind, inspiring a chain reaction of cheer-passing that lasted for many more cars in line.

Wonder who the Scrooge was who stopped the chain!?

Cadaverous Pallor · 11-26-2007, 05:07 PM

If everyone paid for the drink for the person behind them...then everyone paid for a drink. Don't you love it when it's all in our heads?

Alex · 11-26-2007, 05:25 PM

Except for the last person in line.

I have to also think such a promotion is good for the tip jar.

"Hi! I'm a great and caring person so I'd like to take this drive-thru opportunity to buy the drink of the next person in line. Here is $5 for that."

Next person orders: "Hi, I'd like a small drip coffee!"

Cashier: "That's $1.25 but the car that just left paid for your drink" followed by sound of $3.75 going in tip jar.

mousepod · 11-26-2007, 05:39 PM

I thought of that, too. Perhaps that's why the "college boy" asked "what are you drinking?".

Ponine · 11-26-2007, 05:46 PM

I have to admit that the woman in front of me in line this morning offered to pay for my peppermint mocha, being as she has seen me order it a million times before (we're on the same schedule)
and as I started to say "thats sweet, sure"
I thought of Helen, and had to decline. I was so mortified that I was about to say yes, when one of the people I admire said no.

I think I hate the giving spirit of the holiday season.

BarTopDancer · 11-26-2007, 05:48 PM

This thread is interesting. I am one of those who will buy a cup of coffee for the person behind me but I do it year round if I have the cash to spare. I hate to feel that I am putting people on the spot or making them uncomfortable.

Ponine, did you have a bad feeling about what she was offering?

11-19-2007, 06:13 PM	#1
blueerica Nueve Join Date: Jan 2005 Posts: 6,497	Actually, there is something to "women's intuition" or so my consumer behavior/psych type classes tell me, though it often has more to do with a desire to communicate. Men tend to get very different intuition and it's not often the kind that needs to be communicated, just acted upon. I must be tired because I can't remember which of my classes this was for, but last Spring we watched a video where they had boys and girls at various ages, 4-5 9-10, etc respond to the same situations and almost invariably the girls acted one way and the boys acted a different way. It's not better or worse to be one or the other, it's just what it was, which could be genetics, conditioning, or even more likely - both. But back on topic, I can understand the discomfort that may have come from the situation. No need to beat anyone into the ground over it, no need to figure much out - I just think the whole scenario seemed rather odd. I'm totally in Alex's corner with this one - it was asked entirely in the wrong order. Maybe it didn't warrant walking out, but... it is what it is. On the other hand, I prefer €'s analysis... I like caffeinated illicit sex. Or whatever that was. All I saw was sex. And illicit. __________________ Tomorrow is the day for you and me
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11-19-2007, 06:41 PM	#2
NirvanaMan Making Change Happen Join Date: Jan 2005 Posts: 990	Are you sure the offer of good deed came from a young college student and not a christmas woodland creature? If the latter, I think you chose wisely.
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Not Afraid HI! Join Date: Jan 2005 Posts: 17,108	Christmas Woodland Creature? Whale day!
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Cadaverous Pallor ohhhh baby Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Parental Bliss Posts: 12,364	If everyone paid for the drink for the person behind them...then everyone paid for a drink. Don't you love it when it's all in our heads? __________________ The second star to the right shines in the night for you
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11-26-2007, 05:25 PM	#7
Alex . Join Date: Feb 2005 Posts: 13,354	Except for the last person in line. I have to also think such a promotion is good for the tip jar. "Hi! I'm a great and caring person so I'd like to take this drive-thru opportunity to buy the drink of the next person in line. Here is $5 for that." Next person orders: "Hi, I'd like a small drip coffee!" Cashier: "That's $1.25 but the car that just left paid for your drink" followed by sound of $3.75 going in tip jar.
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11-26-2007, 05:39 PM	#8
mousepod You broke your Ramadar! Join Date: Jan 2005 Posts: 4,635	I thought of that, too. Perhaps that's why the "college boy" asked "what are you drinking?". __________________ "Give the public everything you can give them, keep the place as clean as you can keep it, keep it friendly" - Walt Disney
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Ponine Virgin Ears Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: San Diego Posts: 2,075	I have to admit that the woman in front of me in line this morning offered to pay for my peppermint mocha, being as she has seen me order it a million times before (we're on the same schedule) and as I started to say "thats sweet, sure" I thought of Helen, and had to decline. I was so mortified that I was about to say yes, when one of the people I admire said no. I think I hate the giving spirit of the holiday season. __________________ There's something strange, There's something wrong. I see a change - It's like when love dies.
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BarTopDancer Prepping... Join Date: Jan 2005 Location: Here, there, everywhere Posts: 11,405	This thread is interesting. I am one of those who will buy a cup of coffee for the person behind me but I do it year round if I have the cash to spare. I hate to feel that I am putting people on the spot or making them uncomfortable. Ponine, did you have a bad feeling about what she was offering? __________________ Spork is the new MacGyver Postcards From My Edge
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