Body Image...

[innerSpaceman]

At least weight can be lost. Height cannot be gained.

There are surgical solutions to both, I suppose. Drastic in one case .... extremely drastic in the other.


Oh well, at least shortness is not a health issue (unless it's shortness of breath). But it's one that no amount of diet and exercise is ever going to address.

Not a pity plea ... just a perception test. Some body image issues can be addressed, and if they bother you to a certain degree ... they should be.


If they don't .... they're not an issue.

[Ponine]

We actually touched briefly on this topic the last time I was with the LoT gals. It's still my body image. Or yours, or whomevers. Everyone has done growing in the last few years, and someone who might be more comfortable in their skin now, might not have been two years ago.
I am not comfortable in my curves, in my face, in my hair. But, truly, nothing you can do will change that.

I spent a long time being told I was too this, or too that. And whats the Pretty Woman line? Its a lot easier to believe the bad stuff than it is the good?

I know I'm curvy, its painfully obvious. But I also know who I see everyday of my life, and they are not curvy. Or at least, not the same kind of curvy.
I wondered once, what would it be like if I ran into a phtographer, that could take a picture, that maybe didnt show face, or anything x rated, but was able to make me look pretty.
To help me see what someone sees that likes what they are looking at.

Originally Posted by alphabassettgrrl

Ponine- you were told you were fat at *145*????????? That's astounding. And wrong. Go ahead and get in on some of the pictures- I promise you won't ruin them! I want you to be in them and I'm sure I'm not alone!

Somehow, I tend to miss the group photo's. I just wasnt there when they happened. Otherwise, I just dont naturally gravitate to a camera.
Hence, there tends to be little photographic evidence that I am ever actually anywhere. I'm actually a phantom. And you know, with the amount of cameras at meets you would think that this would not be the case!
So, in truth it is not ALL avoidance.
But yes, at 145 I was told I was fat. Just imagine how knowing the scale says 200+ feels now.

Originally Posted by MouseWife

Yep, I can imagine someone saying that 145 is too heavy.

Ironically, when I was 145, I wore a size 9, only because of height. and in '87, a 9 was huge. I bought most of my clothes through catalogs even then.

Originally Posted by MouseWife

I don't think it is a good idea to take too seriously how you look when you are using a magnifying mirror to pluck your eyebrows, either......

Ah, the one thing I retained from MaryKay training. Never look at your face/makeup at a distance of less than 2 feet. No one else will be closer than that distance, and anyone who is, doesnt care what your makeup looks like.

Originally Posted by innerSpaceman

Not a pity plea ... just a perception test. Some body image issues can be addressed, and if they bother you to a certain degree ... they should be.


If they don't .... they're not an issue.

I agree with you, which is why you dont hear me whining about my height.
Doesnt mean that I have the motivation or confidence to go fix it.

[alphabassettgrrl]

Originally Posted by Ponine

But yes, at 145 I was told I was fat.

I want to go back in time and *smack* that person- 145 isn't fat unless you're 3 feet tall. They were *wrong*. Even 200 isn't a problem on some people. Even when I was a teen, I wore an 8. And I *know* I wasn't fat.

Nephy- unhealthy I can agree is bad. Don't worry about the fat thing- it'll find its own balance. Fat's an insult used to lob at someone you want to feel bad and is often not deserved. I think you look great, so who cares what the scale says? Eat, move around, and you're fine.

Everything's coming out wrong right now but please be gentle to yourself. We are such our own worst critics!