The Art of Moving On

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Originally Posted by Gemini Cricket

What causes turmoil in me is that I feel like I have an inherent belief on what is right and what is wrong. I am certain the Church is wrong about gays and it is not like me to sit by when I witness something that is unjust. It eats away at the core of who I am to do so. Yes, I can tell myself to focus on what makes me happy, but I know lingering injustice makes me unhappy. The knowing that I can't do much about it depresses me. Letting it go doesn't make it stop. I don't know...

I think it's more about recognizing what you have contol over. Some things are just beyond your control and you're better off accepting that. Perhaps, it's just the realization that thee way you might make the greatest difference is by using your influence in other ways - leading by example perhaps?

Also the world is full of stimuli - you needn't react to all of it - in fact that's quite impossible. Sometimes we also use the "there is so much wrong with the world" excuse to avoid looking the problems within our own personal lives. It might help to spend some contemplative time on how these larger issues impact you personally, and address solutions on a more personal level - i.e. what you can do to change or live with them. That could mean leaving the church - or becoming more a a thorn in the church's side becasue you refuse to leave it.

In either case, I think it needs to be a personal decission, focus on what exactly you have control over and how it makes you feel. This is a place where I think selfishness is a must.