Back home? Or back from home?

[Chernabog]

Originally Posted by Gemini Cricket

I think HI may be good for fighting my depression, too. I also think that my odds of finding a man in HI is greater.

That's the part that concerned me. Are you saying that those two things are linked? Because a) pulling a geographic WILL NOT help depression (unless you're someplace like Texas and people are throwing rocks at you for being gay) and b) finding a man won't either. If you're depressed and you meet prince charming, then you'll be a depressed person with a prince charming.

Lately, I have been thinking about where I belong. And a big part of me feels like I don’t belong anywhere. I didn’t feel right in Monterey, I didn’t feel like I fit in in Boston and now I’m not sure about LA.

LA definitely takes some time to get used to. It is huge, there are so many people and sometimes it is hard to find your niche. I do understand feeling like you "fit in better" one place over another. I fit in very well in New York, and not as well in LA where I am from.

Maybe going back to school in HI is something I could do. Who knows?

Going back to school for what degree? What is it that you want to do that makes you get that degree? (Do not get a degree, just for the virtue of having a piece of paper). In your line of work, the best places are LA and Vancouver... unless you're thinking of switching gears entirely.

Not a bad thing, (and of course I have my own selfish reasons for wanting you here) I just wouldn't want to see you move for the wrong reasons, or leave with the mentality of "If only I moved to <insert location here> I would be happy, meet my prince charming, all my dreams will come true, who is this wicked stepmother and why is she feeding me a fruit salad", etc. etc. I hope there's no rush or anything, but that you sit down and ponder this stuff for a while. Sometimes, it is impatience, or a reluctance TO set down roots -- if reality doesn't meet high expectations, then it's easier to move again.... then you always have the mindset of "well, I'm probably leaving anyway" and it prevents you from doing the thing you say you want to. (I'm not saying all this is applicable to you, but maybe part of it is, just food for thought.)

[JWBear]

Originally Posted by Chernabog

That's the part that concerned me. Are you saying that those two things are linked? Because a) pulling a geographic WILL NOT help depression (unless you're someplace like Texas and people are throwing rocks at you for being gay) and b) finding a man won't either. If you're depressed and you meet prince charming, then you'll be a depressed person with a prince charming.

This is wisdom.